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Week 10:

Its official, I've decided I can solo parent, I don't want to, but I can! I've been dreading these past few weeks for several months now. Oscar had to be gone on a longer than normal business trip and I just didn't want the responsibility of single parenting. (To all you single parents, and military parents, kudos you deserve all the rewards, All. Of. Them.)  

Oscar established my standards! When I first moved to Arkansas and we were dating he lived about 40 minutes away from me. In the winter he would wake up early and drive to my apartment to scrape of the ice on my windshield and warm up my car before I left for work. He created the dependent monster I've become! Ha! Proof, he only has himself to blame. 

Seriously though, I was terrified to parent without Oscar. I was worried I would forget things, the boys wouldn't eat as well (I don't cook well), the house would be a mess, and I would miss HIM. Oscar is truly my best friend; we've known each other since we were 11 and know everything about each other. This trip was going to be the longest time apart since we got married. 

My pity party didn't last long. This was an incredible opportunity for Oscar. God told me pretty quickly it was time for me to start trusting God instead of putting all my trust in my husband. Ouch! The best thing I can do for my marriage is honor God. If I can learn to honor him my actions will honor my husband and my family. 

"Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you." Matthew 6:33 

These past few days have taught me I can parent solo but I still don’t ever want to do life without my man. We do life well together, and I'm thankful to have him as my forever and always; because we make life better for each other. For the record my boys have been well fed, my house has stayed clean, and Oscar still doesn't know Brooks (our dog) has slept with me every night! Also God has given me the best community! I've had so many friends and family support and care for us in Oscar's absence, and I'm forever thankful!  

This week I honored my good friend Denise Pearce. There are few people in my life who are as strong, kind and gracious as Denise. She is an 8 year breast cancer survivor, this wasn't the only battle she faced and overcame. She has a fighting spirit and never sees a glass as half empty. She loves her community and has served it for the last 40 years. She's married to her high school sweetheart and have been married for like 38 years. I'm a sucker for a good love story, but my favorite love story is a long, faithful marriage. There are few things I love more than talking to a couple who has been married for 30, 40, 50 years, a couple who made the choice to love each other in the seasons of blessings and in the seasons of heartache. Trust me when I say Denise and Mike have had both blessings and heartaches and they continue to love each other through it all. 

Denise and I have a unique bond. We tend to make each other cry. When I'm having one of "those days" I can walk in her office and give her a look and she just knows. She stops what she is doing, gives me a hug, and cries with me. She holds me accountable to chasing my dreams. She supports my future and has never wanted anything less than the best for me. She loves people and her actions reflect her compassion. 

Denise, I want you to know you are loved and you are valued. You have so much to offer in this world of darkness. I hope you will continue to always be you. Here's to many more years of friendship.

I pray these flowers remind you to, "rejoice always, pray continually, and give thanks in all circumstances."


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